You can choose courage, or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both.” —Brené Brown

A couple weeks ago at a dinner party in Bali, I sat across from a white American male who didn’t believe privilege exists and fell under the All Lives Matter banner. After the initial shock of what he was saying wore off, I felt this shot of full body adrenaline take over me, accompanied by the burning sensation in my belly that I always feel when I am scared to say what I am about to say, but know I’m going to do it anyway. 

I could have been silent. I could have let it go, kept the peace, and pivoted over to the civil dinner party conversation all around us. I could have, because it would have been a whole lot easier on me and everyone around me at the table.Read More